Wednesday, July 06, 2005

The deepest human craving

Dear Friends, "The deepest craving in human nature is to be appreciated." - William James

Are you receiving enough appreciation to know your own greatness?

Are you giving appreciation effectively?

In my pre-dissertation research, hundreds of people told me that they were not receiving nearly enough appreciation, yet they were hesitant to be the first one to start giving appreciation. I called this "the silence cycle", and my dissertation was the first to compare different forms of positive feedback to see what was more effective.

Over the years of working with clients, I learned that it takes about a dozen powerful guidelines to do a really great credible, meaningful job of delivering positive feedback. The two I emphasized in my dissertation were showing enthusiasm and being specific. Both have turned out to be extremely powerful requirements for effective appreciation.

How specific is your positive feedback?

How well do you show enthusiasm when giving it?

Being aware of these two skills can help you create better relationships at work and at home.

Make it an appreciative day!


Dr. Linne

"Building Success on Your Best"
Linne Bourget M.A. M.B.A. Ph. D
National pioneer in positive leadership & change
Founder/CEO ITLC
Institute for Transformation Leaders, Coaches and Consultants
Co-author, Bestselling book, Wake Up, Live the Life You Love - Finding Personal Freedom
Author of the new positive leadership book,
What You Say Is What You Get(R): The Secret Language of Great Business Results
What You Say Is What You Get(R): Your Positive Quotient PQ (TM) Questionnaire
What You Say Is What You Get(R): Your Appreciative Quotient AQ (TM) Questionnaire
What You Say Is What You Get(R): Secrets of Powerful Appreciation for Parents and Children of All Ages,
2 Hour 2 CD Audio Book by "Dr. Appreciation"
"The greatest challenge is taking complete responsibility for your own greatness."
Dr. Linne's Positive Power Quote