1. Are you and your closest associates friends and family stressed out about money?
2. Are you or those close to you snapping, raising your voice, speaking negatively?
3. Are your relationships suffering as a result?
4. Are you being hard on yourself because of the economy which you cannot control?
5. Are you trying to tough it out alone without the support you need?
6. Do you want powerful tips to keep your relationships positive during these tough times?
See below for my powerful secret combination of tips to avoid relationship damage and keep
your relationships more positive.
Are your relationships suffering from the Economy Blues? One person finds himself
snapping at the most positive person he knows. Another finds himself spouting political
rage, dumping it on a friend. Couples in financial stress are snapping at each other.
How about you?
2. Are you or those close to you snapping, raising your voice, speaking negatively?
3. Are your relationships suffering as a result?
4. Are you being hard on yourself because of the economy which you cannot control?
5. Are you trying to tough it out alone without the support you need?
6. Do you want powerful tips to keep your relationships positive during these tough times?
My broker just called. I was going to call him, but he called me just then. The first thing he said was,
“I have been thinking about you. I know what hard times you are going through, but you always have a positive uplifting attitude and tone of voice. You are amazing. Anyone else in your circumstances would be ticked off at the world, but you are not.”
His appreciation touched me deeply and meant so much, as I work hard to walk my Positive Leadership talk and stay positive. He let me know that he really respected my positivity under the stress of losses. I am not angry. I am not taking medications. I have much peace despite the financial challenges and hassles which take up a lot of my time and weigh on me. In order to get that peace, I do many things daily to keep peaceful.
How about you? How are you doing under economic stress? A number of people have indicated to me this month that they are under huge stress and having trouble staying positive. (If you have a job, you should be very very very very grateful!) Some of them have been “leaking” Old Power behavior, even though in their best selves they know better.
They have found themselves furious about national leadership, about their personal losses, snapping at others, and reverting to criticism without any appreciation. It made me realize that although I wrote the book From Old Power to New Power, Which Leaders Will Survive for leaders, the same Old Power negative behaviors are causing problems in personal relationships….
Dear me! Another book to write! Maybe audios instead! Meanwhile, my secrets for staying positive and avoiding negative states--the magic is the combination of all of them together.
Leadership and Consulting/Coaching Tips: Negative Old Power influences to avoid and positive New Power strategies:
Negatives to Avoid If You Want More Positive Relationships
1. Sugar and alcohol, Refined carbs, white flour (except for a glass of red wine with dinner. One!)
They agitate then depress you. Eating these is being overly aggressive to yourself. Try fruit!
2. Negative emotional news and outbursts on the media. This is not entertainment, you are being programmed if you allow it. Let them shout, not you! Any media or stories that paint anyone as a helpless victim. We are not helpless.
3. Avoid negative angry people and relationships, as they will keep you stuck in the negative. This is very
bad for your mental, spiritual, emotional and physical health. Hey, other than that......
4. Stay away from any negative religious messages or programming. God is not angry at you.
5. Watch your own thoughts and words. If negative, switch to the positive. What You Say Is What You Get(R)! This is not a time to criticize yourself or your closest people. Express your feelings without criticizing others. (We teach these skills to clients.)
Many are feeling vulnerable and uncertain from the Economy Blues, especially business owners or the unemployed facing losses. What’s done is done. Move forward based on what you want and what your inner wisdom calls you to be and do.
New Power Positive Relationship Strategies for Leaders, Consultants, Employees, Coaches, and Close Friends & Family:
1. Eat healthy, it will stabilize your moods. Don’t overeat it will drag you down.
2. Exercise safely to boost your mood—yeah, neurotransmitters! You know the drill--check with your doctor first!
3. Give yourself positive supportive relationships and spiritual environments, prayer, meditation. We all need support!
3. Stick with positive media, stories, and people! Speak positive words. What You Say Is What You Get(R)!
4. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate yourself and others! What You Say Is What You Get(R)!
“Appreciation can make a day - even change a life.”
Margaret Cousins
My broker got it right! So can you! Time to end each day or week with appreciations. Take turns, you go, they go, you go, they go. Very powerful. At the end of each day I appreciate myself out loud for the good things I did that day. Your relationship with yourself is at the core of your relationship with others. Time to build a more appreciative relationship within yourself. My Inner Team Works system I use with clients helps them create deeply self-respectful and self-loving relationships with themselves, thus improving their relationships with others.
For the full discussion of the dynamics, do’s and don’ts of appreciation, see “Wheel 2” in the Engine and 4 Wheels Leadership Language of Strengths System, What You Say Is What You Get®: The Secret Language of Great Business Results, 2nd. Ed.
Wishing you peace and prosperity--focusing on it for all of you more than ever! Appreciatively, Dr. Linne Check out our site, www.whatyousayiswhatyouget.com for books and products to help you stay positive--30 years of positive communications expertise goes into them!!
Dr. Linne Bourget M.A. M.B.A. Ph. D
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Strategist, Consultant, Speaker, Author of From Old Power to New Power – Which Leaders Will Survive?
Co-author with Mark Victor Hansen, Deepak Chopra, Amazon #1Bestseller, Wake Up, Live the Life You Love - Finding Personal Freedom
Author, What You Say Is What You Get® Series:
The Secret Language of Great Business Results
Dr. Linne's Leadership Guides Series
Positive Quotient PQ® Questionnaire
Appreciative Quotient AQ® Questionnaire
Secrets of Powerful Appreciation for Parents and Children, 2 CD Audio by "Dr. Appreciation"
Appreciation: The Secret Key to Magical Marriage
Coming soon!! Power Course on Intuition for Business Leaders!
"The greatest challenge is taking complete responsibility for your own greatness."
Dr. Linne
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